Welcome family, Life Lately -

We’ve been adjusting well to life with two little ones in our home. If you weren’t aware, I’ve given birth twice in the last two years and not only that but each time I experienced a seven layer surgery ( C-Section ) to birth these beautiful babies.. so mama is taking the time to heal her body.

Our newest bundle of joy was born 2.20 — so we are slightly over a month into postpartum and it’s been quite easy.

Sunnie has adjusted well to her big sister role and loves helping out ( when we let her ) with her brother but on the other side.. things have changed.

Toddler Transitions:

If you’re expecting two under two, expect some shifts with your toddler — our shifts aren’t what people thought they would be ( her adjusting to sharing us .. she does that well ) however, she wants to be included in every - little - detail ( I mean, can I blame her? )

She went from being a great sleeper at night to waking up and realizing she’s in her room alone and wanting to come join the “party” of three in our bed. Can we really tell her no? We’ve been sending her back to her room but then I slightly have mom guilt because she just wants to be included.

While feeding Scottie, as he lays on me — she wants to lay on him. I obviously have to correct it because she’s too heavy for him.. but — can we really blame her? She simply wants to join the cuddle ( because to her it looks that way )

When he cries, she rushes to grab his bottle and attempts to put it in his mouth ( beautiful gesture ) but this kid has glass bottles and that can go left really quick. Ya know? Although she’s helping.. and it’s innocent, these small things are risk.

So, just a heads up.. that we are all adjusting and figuring it out. Things do change.

Marriage-hood:

P a r t n e r s h i p. JaQuan and I knew exactly how we wanted our postpartum journey to feel.. now, we can’t control how it LOOKS but made a vow that regardless of what it looks like, what changes.. it should always feel like we’re in it together. 

And that it does. I know a lot of moms talk about the “roommate phase” where you and your partner are nothing but that — I thank God we didn’t experience that with Sunnie nor are we experiencing it now.

A few tips:

• Communicate your needs D A I L Y, because they change and the more comfortable you are with sharing your needs with your partner, the easier it becomes for them to meet said need. Yesterday you probably needed a hug, today you need extra hours of sleep.. it changes.

• Always remember that you BOTH are parenting the child.. mom, you do not have to be superwoman and do every task — hand the baby over and remember it’s okay if he feeds different than you .. change the diaper slower — as long as the end goal stays the same.

• Joy is found in many different places. Everyday figure out “ what can bring me a little joy today “ — it can be small ( your favorite meal, an uninterrupted shower, extra cuddles with your oldest child, a moment of silence etc. ) 

• Find small windows for connection - daily. Ofc, this varies for each couple but for us ( when I’m not sleepy and have a little more energy ) once the kids go down, we watch a little trash tv and enjoy our meal.. together. That’s our simple way to connect after a day of parenting. 

Work life:

We began content creation July 2024 and If you thought we were on it then — know that bar has been lifted up. We are so excited about this year, the community we will cultivate, the brands we will work with. 

THIS will be our year, and that we shout proudly. So as always, continue to support our journey by liking, commenting, and engaging with us ( letting us know what you want more of ) because it is truly appreciated.

xx,

love y’all — mean it.

Thanks for being apart of our tribe, I pray you enjoy the website and the inside scoop we give here.